Holland Taylor and Sarah Paulson have built a relationship on their own terms, choosing to follow what works best for them rather than conforming to traditional expectations of marriage. Despite being together for more than a decade, the couple have never felt the need to make their commitment official through a wedding.
During a recent appearance on The Drew Barrymore Show, Taylor opened up about how she and Paulson, 51, manage their relationship while balancing demanding careers and frequent time apart.
The actress explained that although their professional commitments often take them to different places, they make an effort to spend as much time together as possible.
“Well we do as much time as we possibly can, because work takes us apart constantly,” she said.
Taylor also offered some insight into their living arrangements, revealing that Paulson stays at her New York City apartment whenever she is in town.
“But I have an apartment here [in New York City], and [Paulson] stays here in my apartment when she’s here.”
The couple also maintain separate homes in Los Angeles, although their arrangements have become a little different over the past year.
“In LA, I have a separate house from hers, but her new house, she hasn’t moved into,” Taylor explained.
She added that Paulson has actually been staying at her home for quite some time.
“It’s been almost a year since she’s been staying in my house in LA, too. So we’re together as much as geography and our jobs let us be.”
Why Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor Have Chosen Not to Marry
Taylor and Paulson’s love story began long before their relationship became romantic.
The two first met in 2005, but their connection did not develop into a romantic relationship until early 2015. They eventually made their romance public in March 2016.
Since then, the actresses have maintained a strong relationship while largely keeping their private lives away from unnecessary public attention.
However, despite spending more than 10 years together, neither has shown an interest in walking down the aisle.
During a November 12 appearance on Chelsea Handler’s Dear Chelsea podcast, Paulson spoke candidly about why she is comfortable remaining unmarried.
The actress explained that not getting married has allowed her to maintain a certain sense of independence and personal identity.
“I’m happy that I haven’t been married,” Paulson said. “I feel that I’ve maintained some sense of myself in a way.”
Paulson made it clear that her decision has nothing to do with a lack of commitment to Taylor. In fact, she described the connection they share as something that already feels like a marriage, even without a legal or formal ceremony.
“The bond, the connectivity I have with Holland, I feel married to her,” Paulson explained.
However, she admitted that she has never felt the need to make their relationship permanent through an official declaration or written commitment.
“but I don’t have or have never had the need to have it be something written in stone somehow.
“The stoneness of it gives me the heebie-jeebies.”
Paulson went on to explain that remaining unmarried gives her a sense of freedom, something she clearly values in both her personal life and her relationship with Taylor.
For the couple, their commitment is defined by the connection they share and the life they have built together, rather than by traditional expectations or a marriage certificate.